Remember that everyone is a person, you included, and that making mistakes is just what it is: making mistakes. Do you want to spend the rest of your life analyzing moments that have not been exactly the pinnacle of your existence?
No. But as is often the case, things are easier said than done, and that voice inside my head is not necessary helping. So here’s what I do after falling. I lay all my cards on the table, tell my friends what happened without trying to get them to side with me against whatever malevolent force caused me to fall this time. I don’t want my friends to tell me it wasn’t my fault simply because they love me. I want them to help me find that bird’s eye perspective, if only for a moment. So what if you bought the wrong house and your neighbors keep humping day and night as if their very lives depended on it and you keep telling them they’re not on Robinson’s island and you need some sleep because you need to go to work all fresh and crispy? So what if you’ve stayed too long in the same job and quitting is a luxury you can’t afford when bills need to get paid and you’re not getting any younger in the process? So what if you don’t recognize the face in the mirror because you’ve been fooling yourself way too long, which somehow led to a state of near-despair for all to see? So what if your health deteriorates faster than superman’s fart can cross the Atlantic and the embodiment of strength and zest for life that used to be you - that demi-god you thought you were, and you’ve got proof, too (show them those pictures!) – really isn’t you?
So what? I keep telling myself I shouldn’t be so hard on myself. And that, in the end, it doesn’t matter all that much in the greater scheme of things unless, of course, you're Napoleon or Pickleope von Liechtenstein. A bird’s eye view, people. Eighty years is all we’ve got. Maybe a couple of years more if we’re lucky, maybe a few less if we’re not, but that’s pretty much it. So on your feet, soldier. On your feet. (Now, who said that?)
How do you rise with dignity after falling really hard?
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