MENTAL NOTE

"Though we cannot make our sun stand still, yet we will make him run."
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Thursday, November 27, 2014

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone (May It Not Be Blue)

May this be a wonderful Thanksgiving for all of you, my friends. I may not have met you yet, but that doesn't mean my words of gratitude through these past few years have been just that... words. Speaking of which...


My neighbor is a dying man. He's hoping to make it till Christmas. My neighbor is not a poor man, but I do know that a truckload of money would've made him happy. Why is that? Because if he were rich, he would've been able to afford a medical checkup every six months. The docs would've diagnosed him with cancer a couple of years ago when it wasn't life-threatening yet. My neighbor would've been able to afford the best doctors on the planet. He would've survived. Now he's a dying man. As I write this on Thanksgiving Day, I can see him sitting at his kitchen table staring at the walls, wondering why this is happening to him. Why me? A couple of weeks ago he said, "Neighbor, everybody keeps telling me to keep my chin up and to stay positive, but they don't know shit."

That's right, they don't know shit, and that so includes me. Except that money would've made him happy. That much I do know. He would've been able to see his grandchildren grow up. Now they get to bury him a couple of months from now. He's a dying man. Do we even know what that means unless it's happening to ourselves? My neighbor is slowly but surely suffocating to death, and there's nothing I can do. There he is, across the street, and nobody to share the burden with. Not really. Whatever I can say to him or his wife can say to him or his children... in the end it's all academic.

I am thankful for being alive. I'm thankful for having survived my own little ordeal. I'm grateful for each day I wake up to find I'm still going strong. I'm grateful for my family, and may they keep going strong too. Yesterday was my Mom's final day at the office. Now, on Thanksgiving Day, she is officially retired. I'm thankful for everything she's done for me. I love you, Mom.

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  1. For the second time this morning I find myself writing: Life can be so bittersweet. Ironically my next door neighbor is in the same situation. I'm at a loss for words.
    It is sweet to hear your concern for your Mom - they are so precious. I miss mine every day.
    Happy Thanksgiving Blue, to you and the family. May you have joy!

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  2. Congratulations to your mother. I'm still about ten years from that point but looking forward to it.
    So sad about your neighbor. Even if we can't afford the checkup, can we afford not to?
    Have a great Thanksgiving and be blessed. Enjoy your family.
    Signing back off to go spend time with mine...

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  3. I'm also thankful that you are still going strong and that you have returned to the blogdom after that long break of yours during which I though we lost you.
    Can you invite the neighbour for the dinner?

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    1. He's too weak to even get out of his house. That's very kind of you to say that. And I know you mean it too.

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    2. I feel for him. Some people really have no luck whatsoever on this planet :(

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    3. It's a hopeless situation. He must be feeling so lonely.

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  4. Well that took me on a roller coaster of emotions. Rather than focus on the absolute crushing sadness of your neighbor, I'll instead say that it's good that you're still around, and that your mother is in the position to be able to retire. Enjoy your Thanksgiving.

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  5. Retirement, that is one of the best words going, as long as money is there showing haha sad when there is nothing at all one can do. As we can't say anything that hasn't already been said by those close to them at their zoo.

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    1. Oh and yeah, keep your chin up and be positive, those people don't know shit.

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  6. How delightful. It's about 10 AM where I am and I just looked out the window and saw 6 members of one family, all bundled up, taking a walk on this cold but sunny Thanksgiving Day. Their turkey is most likely cooking to a juicy perfection in the oven and the table all a-sparkle with their best china and crystal. It's a beautiful cycle of tradition but as years pass, children grow up, move away and the parents find themselves older and perhaps approaching death, like your neighbor. It is another phase of the cycle and people can make their own choices, yet for reasons we do not understand. All we can do is accept the path that others have chosen.

    Yay for your mother's retirement. That deserves another glass of wine at the Thanksgiving table.

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  7. I'm a bad academic, so I won't try to make wise, sweeping statements. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and insights with us all. Congratulations to your mother on her retirement, and may you find blessings and happiness for yourself and your loved ones.

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    1. But I love your wise and sweeping statements. What am I to do now? :)

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  8. And I am thankful - very thankful - that I am not your neighbour. Heartbreaking. Tis a situation that should never have come about because of lack of money.

    We don't have Thanksgiving Down Under, but I wish you a very pleasant day.

    All the best, Blue.

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    1. It is heartbreaking, Wendy. I wake up, look outside, and there he is... sitting in his kitchen, unable to walk more than 100 feet.

      Thanks :)

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  9. You always have such remarkable sensitivity in your posts, even when you're talking about snoring, but of course, more so when you're talking about our bigger frailties. Wishing you a special thanksgiving.

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    1. I consider that a compliment, Lynda.

      Thank you :)

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  10. So nice to having the person one loves so dearly
    Sharing moments together with the turkey
    More so she now has time on her hands
    To be sharing lots of good times
    With her loving son Blue
    One so true.
    Considering

    Dying
    A neighbor
    Pitifully next door
    Presumably cash to spare
    But with just months at his lair
    Not telling why he chose to while away
    Wealth meant to solve and live well every day

    Let it be
    To each his own surely
    Happy Thanksgiving Blue
    Blogging is glad now having you

    Hank

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    1. Wow! Look at that! A piece of art from my friend Hank. Thank you, Hank... The One and Only Rhyming Tank!

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  11. Im happy by you and Im thankful
    For be my friend, thanksful you feel better and thanksful you have Angie.
    I said yesterday too and repeat Im thanksful by my twins, my hubby and my parents.
    A big hug to your mom hope she enjoy her retirement!
    Happy thanksgiving dear blue:)♡♥♡♥

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    1. I was thinking... we've known each other for quite a while now. Time flies, Gloria Dear. Thanks for always stopping by :)

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  12. That is why I have no patience for people getting political about insurance coverage. Everyone, regardless of their station in life, deserves to have access to care.

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  13. Our healthcare system is bullshit. I read something somewhere that said
    "If you want to make a lot of money, live in a nice house and drive a fancy car, become a doctor in the USA. If you want to do your job, become a doctor anywhere else." The older I get, the more true I think this is. I have insurance, but I don't know what for. I shell out hundreds of dollars a month to have insurance, because thanks to Obama, I HAVE to have it, but it covers nothing. I took my daughter to the doctor last month because she had a bladder infection. $150 later, insurance paid nothing and I got stuck footing the bill. I am supposed to have a colonoscopy every year. But since I have a preexisting condition, insurance pays nothing. I pay $3000 dollars out of pocket for each one, and getting hit with that sticker shock prevents me from going in to have one every year. Healthcare costs are insane, and I foresee myself in your neighbors position in a few years. If I make it to 45, I will honestly be shocked. (Noone on my dads side makes it past 50). So, I live each day thankful for the days I have already had. For getting to experience love, and children, and good friendships along the road so far. That's more than many have gotten to see, so I guess I am truly blessed and couldn't ask for more.

    Congrats to your mom on her retirement. I hope she is able to live out her golden years in good health and happiness!

    And Happy Thanksgiving a wee late :)

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    1. Colonoscopy is that expensive there? You should come over here to do it :) You'd pay less than 100 bucks :) People often come here from Western Europe to fix their teeth or do plastic surgeries because these things are ten times cheaper here (which means nothing to us here because our salaries are hundred times smaller LOL)

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    2. Three thousand bucks... that's extortionate. No one (no one?) on your dad's side, but you, Theresa Dear, will grow so old (while looking so dashingly young) that even that guy from Highlander will envy your youthful beauty. There, I said it. Fifty.... that's even less than in my family. Why is it called insurance when it doesn't insure one bit?

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    3. Dezzz, how much is the average salary in your part of the world (in dollars)?

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    4. teachers get less than $500 a month and currently they're on strike because the government wants to lower it even more which would make life unbearable... not to mention all the people who, without a college degree, work even for $200 a month, which is also what most retired people get too....

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    5. Dezzy, a lot of Americans go to Mexico for the cheap dental they provide. Our dental is outrageous too. I chipped one of my molars and they wanted almost $1000 to put a cap on it. I told them when it becomes an issue, I'll have them pull it for $60. It is only a back one after all. Some days I entertain the idea of moving to Canada for their healthcare benefits.

      Blue, nope. Cancer is a killer on my dads side. Grandma was dead at 44 with breast cancer, uncle Marty with colon cancer at 48 (which is where I'm headed), Uncle Mark at 50 with bladder cancer, and my dad, the youngest at 42 with lung cancer. It's never been a matter of *if" we get cancer, but *when*. I don't know if there is truth to it, but I was told that cancer goes from mother to son, from son to his daughters. In this case, it so seems that way since Grandma's sons all got the cancer after her. Now I am plagued with issues myself, and am positive it's handed down from my own father.

      I think it would be better to cancel the insurance and bank what I pay them to cover my medical bills. I still scratch my head as to what exactly I am paying them for!?

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    6. I don't know what to say... except that I'm glad you're here. Keeping my fingers crossed for you, sweet woman that you are.

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  14. Your neighbor's story is sad, but I congratulate your mom on her retirement. I hope she enjoys every minute. I am so grateful for the Affordable Care Act. I've had a mammogram, a physical, and a colonoscopy this year. All three were completely covered by my new insurance. I tried to get insurance before we had the Affordable Care Act. Everyone turned me down because of pre-existing conditions.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. It feels like a weight has been lifted. I'm quoting.

      Janie, how come you and Theresa have diametrically opposed views on the Affordable Care Act?

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    2. I don't know. Perhaps it's because she needs a colonoscopy every year? I have a happy colon, so I don't need a colonoscopy for another ten years. The Affordable Care Act requires certain procedures to be covered. Some are to be done once a year. I don't know how often they'll cover a colonoscopy.

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    3. I just wish money wasn't an issue, but it always is.

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  15. So sorry to hear about your neighbor. Happy for your mom, though. Hope you had a great Thanksgiving.

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  16. Aw Grumps. Happy Thanksgiving! I'm grateful that I have friends like you in my orbit. Most days when I feel like there's no one (physically), I know that I still have a couple (like you) rooting for me. And that makes all the difference couz. Now I'm sorry I didn't say Happy Thanksgiving on the actual day - it's not a thing here in KSA or in the RSA for that matter - and so it kinda escapes the conscious self.
    Much love to you and yours :) *HUGS*

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    1. Hi couz. CLICK!! :) You know how grateful I am to know you.

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    2. Thanks for that lovely tune that will lull me to sleep on this restless night :)

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  17. Hi Blue,

    Sorry, I am late with a Happy Thanksgiving, but you know I wish you a happy day each and every day. It is true you know..I am thankful for the gift of you. I am grateful for the poem we co-created and it will always be one of those special moments in my life that I want to hold on to for as long as I can.

    Congrats on you mom's retirement! I hope she enjoys each day.

    So sorry about the neighbor it is my hope that he enjoys his last days and he goes gently in the night as he crosses the other side of the gateway. So sad Blue..so sad..

    You know I love you so!

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    1. No need to apologize, Truedessa Dear. I know you do. So now I'm wondering... would we get bored if each and every day were a happy one? Of course we wouldn't. We would write another poem for crying out loud ;) Bored... us? Never.

      Thanks for your words of kindness. You know I love you too. Just make sure that Cat isn't eavesdropping. He'd be so jealous. :)

      Blue

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