MENTAL NOTE

"Though we cannot make our sun stand still, yet we will make him run."
Blue, resist the urge to use facebook. You can do it. Good luck.
Cats and dogs can be friends. So can cowboys and indians. So can we.
Why try to be the best when there's no hierarchy in heaven?

Sunday, October 4, 2015

The Intern Internalized

When you find yourself empathizing with the elderly, would you say that's a sign of (a) being an okay human being or (b) getting old as you slowly but surely distance yourself from a Facebook Me-Me-Me Generation that's high on energy drinks, not to mention obsessed with their own notorious now-now needs, the immortalization of their fancy internet image and, of course, staying young? Whichever one it is, a or b, Nancy Meyers' The Intern was worth every penny I spent on it. For a day, it made me a lighter shade of blue and got me thinking in the process as I sat there in our local theater pondering the signs of the times. I didn't know today's Hollywood productions could still do that. 

How wrong I was. In fact, the freshness of The Intern came as such a surprise that I didn't even need my fix of comfort food to feel safe and happy for a couple of hours—much unlike the naughty stranger sitting on my left, who demonstrated her poor upbringing by ferociously stuffing her pretty face, mouth wide open as she chewed away her extortionately overpriced popcorn like her entire young adult life depended on it and making more noise than a hundred necks snapping in Jason's favorite wet dream. You get the picture. So much for enjoying the first twenty minutes of Anne Hathaway's heartfelt performance and Robert De Niro's fine brand of verisimilitude. I nearly turned into a Jason Verheek myself, desperate to elbow that one woman munchfest into silence. (So much for (a) 'being an okay human being,' I know.)

But when my neighbor's noisy appetite was finally quenched and I was sucked back into the safety of the big screen, I was pleased to notice how often Nancy Meyers made us laugh about ourselves, meaning there was still hope in a world where everyone seems to be so easily offended. Isn't the way we treat the elderly the greatest offence of all? Marginalize the elderly now and, if you're lucky enough to reach that golden age of seventy-plus, one day the joke will be on you. The audience seemed to get the message and I for one hope it'll stick. The way I see it, we need to embrace people of all ages and not think—because we are young (and I don't mean me)—that we rule the world and to hell with old age.

Meyers has done a great job showing her viewers that relishing today's slick what-have-yous is the same as clinging to yesterday's you-name-its, and it's all good. Fashion shouldn't dictate a person's worth nor should a fancy Apple that will be gathering dust by the time you get out of fashion yourself. I liked De Niro's vintage leather briefcase, and something tells me the audience soon realized they did too. Isn't that great? Facebook is all fine, but don't let it stand in the way of a face-to-face conversation or, better yet, your experiencing the here and now through your own eyes and not through a six-ich electronic screen. The elderly have so much to share, much more than we do when we press that little share button, so why not put down that iPhone for a while and listen?

Oh how non-preachy this movie is, yet so clear. A typical case of show, don't discuss (so I'll keep it short). When, a couple of minutes into the movie, Anne Hathaway's character tells her brand new senior intern to wait for her to send him an email, and he offers to step into her office every now and then instead (her office is located at a leisurely ten-second walk away from his seat), she declines the offer and tells him... she'll send him an email. The message is clear on multiple levels. When she thinks it might be a good idea to postpone the all-important adult talk she and her unhappy house husband (nay, stay-at-home dad) had planned and watch Netflix instead ('What's that?' some will be asking in ten years), we know the clock is about to strike twelve and that glass slipper did not come with a receipt. Suffice it to say that in my mind's eye I saw a vision of the twin laptops sitting right next to each other on our dinner table at home. What do they say about us? I wondered.

Flash forward to the here and now.

My Bollywood Princess's laptop is switched off as I type this for (hopefully) your reading pleasure. It's a sign of our times that she's not at home or her non-Apple Hewlett-Packard would be switched on as well. It's all too clear to me now that we, too, have been infected with the Me-Virus. Why else would I be writing this blog and would she be on Facebook when I pretend I'm not looking? I'm tempted to say I may need to watch The Intern a second time and get my priorities straight. Reshuffle the deck. But I'm not going to. I know there is a golden mean somewhere and I'll be damned if anybody is going to keep me from finding it.

For what it's worth, I loved this movie. I hope you will too.

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113 comments:

  1. Haven't seen it. (Saw The Martian this weekend instead. Actually, it had a very positive message as well.)
    The email or text each other from the other room bit has always baffled me. Get up off your butt and go talk to your spouse.

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    1. So The Martian won't be a waste of my time come Friday?

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    2. With a goat
      In a boat
      On a moat
      It can float

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    3. Like a fox
      In a box
      On a moat
      It can float

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    4. Or sink
      In a wink
      By a fink
      That's pink

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  2. This actually sounds like a movie I would quite like... and you are correct, we spend far too much time on social media and too little time actually connecting.

    In this, I have little choice, but I do what I can to spend time face-to-face.

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    1. Good to hear from you, Jacqueline. We are guilty as charged, alright. :)

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  3. Actually, Blue, recent years have been very good to senior actors, we haven't had so many films with them in ages as we have now. They're all kinda having a revival! From Judi, Helen, Ian, Derek, Patrick to Robert, Anthony, Maggie, Julie, Imelda and others... they're all acting now more than they acted decades ago. And deservedly too!

    That being said, I'm sad I've never had an older person figure in my life.... :(

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    1. Well, let's hope this trend translates itself into some form of reality.

      I'm an older figure in your life.

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    2. but you're just a boy, hardly a grandpa or grandma... although I'm not sure about this other one :)))

      Now go and see QUARTET with Maggie and Bill Nighy, LADY IN THE VAN and MY OLD LADY with Maggie, PRIDE with Imelda, VICIOUS with Derek and Ian, PHILOMENA with Judi....

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  4. I often wonder about how much times have really changed? TV used to get the blame for tearing families apart. And how many movies would show a father reading the newspaper at the breakfast table instead of interacting with the family?

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    1. It's the same trend. It's a continuation.

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  5. Sounds like a good movie, one I want to see. Was in a restaurant a few weeks back. Young family came in, placed their order, waiting for food. Mom and dad both the get on their phones. Little girl in high chair is fussy, wanting interaction from her parents, they basically ignore her. Sad.

    Betty

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    1. Great parenting. Their parents must be so proud.

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  6. i'd watch it.
    we have a rule. no screens from 3pm to 9pm, so we'd have to interact with each other. we do watch the TV together.

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  7. Sounds like a good one
    Lately that is rare for a DeNiro run
    Most of his has been crap
    About time he puts a good one on the map
    The whole texting or emailing when ten seconds away
    Is stupid as can be at any bay
    But the me me me's have to win
    And give it a round and round spin
    I think Netflix will still be here in 10 years though
    Cable is we know it will be what is given the heave ho

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    1. I'd almost given up on him
      Assigned his last ten flicks to the bin
      But now he's back with a vengeance to
      As I try to find my blue suede shoe

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    2. About time
      Good luck with the shoe crime

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    3. that blue suede shoe sure was hidden outta view...
      just ask the cat as I am sure he has some clues

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    4. A bit of luck would ne great
      As I sit and wait
      The Cat has many a clue
      When it comes to my blue suede shoe

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    5. Waiting at your sea
      No kangaroo hopped to thee?

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    6. Maybe I was looking the wrong way
      Didn't see a kangaroo at my blue bay today

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    7. Well you have a zoo
      Look that way in your view

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    8. So true
      There's a zoo
      But no kangaroo
      With a blue suede shoe

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    9. Maybe a monkey
      Made it smell funky

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    10. Maybe so...
      But when you gotta go
      You gotta go

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  8. How much people rely on technology to babysit or to amuse themselves grows with each passing day.

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    1. The iBabySitter... Ain't that the truth.

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  9. Watch the Intern
    Worth the money to burn
    Not old to appreciate
    Or young to associate
    Old enough to insist
    And not to resist

    Hank

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    1. Not old to appreciate
      Or young to associate...

      I like that, Hank :)

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  10. Hi Blue...
    Happy Sunday to you...
    Think my boyfriend and I should see this movie...
    I certainly agree about face to face time...♥️
    Nothing better!
    Old folks rule!
    Not me of course....geesh....but pretty darn soon!
    Great post...
    Cheers!
    Linda :o)

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    1. Not you, of course. Duh!
      Hi Linda!

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    2. Linda and her boyfriend are twentysomethings, yes, Blue?

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    3. Yes. There's no doubt about it.

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    4. Yes, Dezzzz... be nice or you'll end up in Blue's Booty Camp!

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    5. when were we not nice, Blue?

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    6. Better watch that slipper, Dezzzzmeister.... :p

      Did you mean 'we' as in Dezzy and Dezzy or was I included this time?

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    7. you and me chased around a tree by a bee!

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    8. In that case, we're always nice.

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    9. don't expect much sanity when me and Blue are leading the comment tread, Linda :)

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  11. Hey Blue! I enjoyed your review of "The Intern." I'll probably see it once I get home from Victoria. I find myself being extra kind to the elderly, because it's getting really close. I do hate how people treat them as if they were invisible. Happy Sunday!

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    1. Thank you. Yes, it's a disgrace how old people are just cast aside. How did that happen?

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  12. Ya got me interested. Just a sec, lemme put that title on my wishlist....

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    1. How long is that list of yours? Just curious.

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  13. ok, I am intrigued and I may have to go see this when I am feeling a bit better. It sounds like it has a good story line with a message. I think that age is just a number we can still interact with one another if we take the time to really listen.

    "While we enjoy a cyber world, let's not forget we live in a human world"

    You know there was a time when elders were respected for their wisdom and knowledge. Now, they are treated like dinosaurs from another era...just plain
    sad Blue...

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    1. So you're not feeling great today? Would you believe me if I told you I've been called The Dino many times by gadget lovers and Apple fetishists alike?

      We're always 'so busy...' I wonder why.

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    2. I am never too busy for you "blue

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    3. I'll take that as a compliment :)

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  14. Glad you enjoyed the movie, I haven't seen it.

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    1. Thanks, Mary. Let's say I was pleasantly surprised. :)

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  15. OH! I've been wondering if that movie was as good as it looks! Now I HAVE to see it! Thanks for the recommendation!

    I love the message in this post, my friend. My husband and I so rarely turn off those pesky devices anymore, but when we do, it's always so great. I love those moments when there's no distraction from us, no background noise. We need to do that more often. Thanks for the reminder. :)

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    1. You're welcome! Good to hear from you again.

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  16. I saw ads for this movie and wondered if it would be good or schlocky. Based on your recommendation, I shall add it to my Netflix queue. Last night I gave Willy Dunne Wooters holy heck for being having football text conversations on the phone all the time when I try to talk to him. He's spent less time on the phone today.

    Love,
    Janie

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    1. Pardon me. Please ignore "being." It should be "holy heck for having football text conversations." Even The Queen of Grammar can be error prone.

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    2. So he's spent less time on the phone today. Is that a fact (smiling)? Well, good for you... and him, of course.

      Greetings from the King of Grammar ;)

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  17. Thanks, Blue. I've been wanting to see this. Good to get your take.

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    1. Went to see it a second time. The Missus wanted to see it too. Great dialogues and interaction.

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  18. I haven't even heard of this (I don't subscribe to TV anymore so I miss a lot), but I like the message. As for always being connected, well, I hardly ever pick up my smartphone, I log into Facebook maybe once a day, and I spent the entirety of today with my cohort drinking beers in a bar with real people. It was nice. So much nicer than online.

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    1. That's rhe magic word: real people. Good to hear you had a great time. Bottoms up!

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  19. I have been looking forward to seeing this movie for quite some time. I like that you enjoyed it, and that it has a non-preachy and powerful message. What the heck is up with all these people wanting to be internet cool lately? It's ridiculous. I had an old friend reconnect with me on Facebook a month ago. We lost contact about 10 years back (were super close in high school) and she sends me a Facebook message. "Hey! Glad to find you on here! Here's my phone number if you ever want to catch up through text messaging!" Seriously? I was like WTF? Who catches up over TEXT MESSAGE? What happened to going out for lunch or grabbing a coffee. You know, face-to-face interaction. Does it even exist anymore? Needles to say, I won't be texting her. I sent my number to her and said feel free to "CALL" when you want to catch up.

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    1. dahllink, maybe she got fat and doesn't want you to see her like that :)))
      On the other hand, I don't know who wouldn't want to go for a lunch with you... am I right, Blue?

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    2. You're right, Dezz. I mean, any woman would feel threatened by the dazzzling looks of our friend Theresa. But, really, who catches up over text message for crying out loud? It's a sign of the times and I flip them the bird - big time, too.

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    3. no wonder she says she only had male friends in her younger days!

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    4. I've seen her Facebook photos and she's aging quite well, actually. I was just dumbfounded that anyone would want to sit there typing back and forth trying to catch up through the phone. Seems like a 20 minute call would be more practical, no?

      Yep, all male friends with the occasional hang out with a female here and there. Funny thing was, I never had me a boyfriend in high school. I was the little ugly duckling. The only brunette in a sea full of blondes the boys all wanted lol. It wasn't until after I graduated that I found my best friend Jenn, but even that took a minute of wanting to kill each other before realizing we were perfect best friend soul mates ;) She knows I'd throat punch her if she ever pulled a "let's chat over text" stunt like that ;)

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    5. well then maybe she didn't want you to overshadow her beauty with your own :)
      Lovely to hear you have Jen! I still don't have somebody I'd call my best friend in reality... some people came and went by but nobody stayed for a longer time :)

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    6. Yep, Theresa, a 20 minute call would be much more practical, alright. So you were... the little ugly duckling... Can't say I saw that one coming.

      I'm sorry to hear that, Dezzz. We all need at least one real friend.

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    7. Well, Dezzy, you got me and Blue and we aren't going anywhere ;) Though, I do understand how frustrating it is to have people come and go. I guess that's why I am very standoffish myself. I hate to get attached only to have them leave later.

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    8. He's too touched to respond, Theresa. :) I, too, don't like it when people come and go. I find it frustrating.

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    9. yep, 'tis a pain in the bum!

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  20. So glad to hear it was good and had a positive message. I may have to go see this one while it's still in the movies and drag my daughter with me.

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    1. Yes, not on your laptop, Elsie. Not this one :)

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  21. Hi Blue :) I wondered about this movie. Thanks for such a charming review of a charming movie. (Did that sound too sweet?) I want so much for the movie to be 'real' and 'fruitful'. Life is so animated.

    I've almost forgotten Facebook - oh well, someone can email me if they'd like (pfft). I hate cell phones as well.

    Let's face it, I look cute in pigtails, but I'm close to being an old bird. Maybe the Princess Laia look is till cool?

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    1. Correction:

      Maybe the Princess Laia look is still cool?

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    2. who's Princess Laia? :) The one who lies a lot? Or who does a lot of laying around?

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    3. Dezzz, behave. You know she means Leia. Sorry about that, Dixie. As for the Leia look... it will always be cool in my book. I went to see The Intern a second time and I loved it.

      Did I mention I love pigtails? (Dezz, don't you dare say anything.)

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    4. I'm not saying anything....

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  22. I could definitely use a laugh right now. Thanks for the recommendation.

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    1. There you are. I saw it a second time the other day with the Missus. I loved it all over again.

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  23. Glad you enjoyed the movie! I think I will like it too. Like everything in life it's all about balance I guess. My hubby & I have just moved in with his 90 year old Mum & she is loving me showing her stuff on facebook - she cant wait until the internet is up & running so she can see it all on the big screen, instead of half of if on my phone :-)

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    1. She can't wait until the internet is up & running... Is that a fact? Well, good for her. Ninety... such a respectable age. I don't think anyway in my family have ever reached that age.

      Yes, balance, but one person's balance is another person's chaos. No?

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    2. How true re the chaos!!!! How does one manage this. I am so guilty of only seeing someones chaos & being totally unaware they feel in balance. my bad right???

      I can never be sure she knows exactly what the internet is, but she knows it can do stuff she cant LOL.

      A whole week without internet. Just was well I have it at work & data on my phone...........otherwise I'd be rocking in a corner!!!!!! I must admit I feel rather disconnected without it.........surely that's a bad thing!!!!!

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    3. A whole week... How about that... And you're still in one piece, are you? :)) Oh I don't know if not wanting to live without the internet is a bad thing, AlleyCat. It's all about finding a balance that works for you, don't you think?

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  24. Well I simply must see this film if it stops me wanting a bacon butty. Don’t you just hate that? Why do people bring the most noisiest food to a cinema? And when they do that AND keep their shiny mobile screens lit up I become filled with a whole new kind of malevolence (I’m trying to give you some verisimilitude here)

    I regularly sod off to places, like France to do just this: get face to face with people and put my shit down. Not only a day ago I sat at a cafe table in Europe where I met a wonderful German couple with whom I ended up having a quality 3 hours of conversation and novelty drinks. It’s times like this that make me appreciate the simple pleasures in life; getting in the thick of it with your fellow man.

    However, we still have to go back to the world that runs at neck breaking speed just to be part of the day to day conga and not get sideswiped into the discarded litter. Keeping abreast as they say, of which I have two. And, without my trusty, plug in Apples I would not have been so fortuitous to have met your good self and others, so the pro’s are gilt edged in that respect. But, sometimes, ditch your crutches and get into the real world and listen ~ communicate ~ laugh ~ experience. Balance my friend.

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    1. The situation is much worse, Jules: not only do people bring the noisiest food to a cinema, but they also don't give a rat's ass if you think the entire movie experience is not necessarily about them. They won't even try to eat their noisy whatever the way more civilized people do. Why would they? At least they're having fun, right? Speaking of verisimilitude... I once sat in our movie theater and there was this teen girl sitting in front of me checking out this racy picture of an incredibly hairy 1970's pussy (not the domestic animal, I assure you), then sent this picture to her friend sitting three seats to her left. She just couldn't concentrate on the movie. She had to check her messages every five minutes.

      A quality 3 hours of conversation and novelty drinks... I don't think that's a very fashionable thing to do. So I like it. Balance is underrated, Jules.

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    2. What's wrong with these people? I feel ashamed if I shuffle in my seat and it squeaks! AND GOD HELP ME if I do have a bag of sweeties as it takes me the whole film to silently slide my hand into the packet to retrieve on. What is this new age disrespect ? All noisy food, mobile phones, hairy 70's pussies and shitty attitudes should be left with the ice cream lady on arrival to the cinema room.

      The future is old fashioned, Blue - you just wait and see :)

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    3. This new age disrespect has a name, Jules. It's called Me-Me-Me. I'm not kidding.

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  25. Sounds like a better film than I thought it would be. Sounds like it has more depth and intelligence than the average flick

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    1. Sounds like you're as surprised as I was :)

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  26. Will have to check this out Blue as I am not really watching so many movies or tv series ~ I am not into FB often but when I do, I like, like, like so many stuff, he..he... Have a good week and thanks for dropping by ~

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    1. Hi Grace. You won't be disappointed. I used to be on FB a long. long time ago, but that was only for a day.

      Have a great week too.

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  27. It''s a feel-good movie, reminiscent of "Chase the Gardener" in "Being There" and "My man Friday." One likes to think of a gentleman's gentleman, a person who can solve any problem. Oh if it were only that easy. I often drop everything on the spur of the moment and take in the noon matinee. A brief respite from the daily grind. (Not coffee). I'm glad you enjoyed the movie.

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    1. Ah there you are. No, I'm afraid it is never ever that easy, Manzanita. Why do you think that is? Don't you just love the noon matinee? The daily grind... oh let's not even go there. It's what makes me blue (and I mean Moody Blue). But this movie sure made me a lighter shade of blue. It was refreshing so I told the Missus and she said she wanted to see it too. So I just went a second time. I liked it as much as the first time. Now, how often does a person get to say that?

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      Gottjurpoint.....as it all depends on our subject.

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    3. You got it! Have fun today, Manzanita. And may the force be with you :))

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  28. Well somebody beat me to it! Tough luck!

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    1. It was Jules. My sweet friend Jules, Dezz.

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    2. well, SuperDezzy can't be saving the world all the time... us superwalruses can't get everywhere on time, you know....

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    3. you is right, me is a CoonRus!

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  29. I wanted to see it before your review (I love the actor combo), but now I really want to see it. Happy to see the review!

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  30. I had not heard of this one (but I have heard of the Martian and that it's equally good), and I didn't really play on Facebook until replacing my internet provider and phone about-mid summer. I, too, think I might enjoy the movie, based on your review. But I must confess... my husband and I have not-twin sewing machines set up right next to each other, we sew together, and we look over each other's shoulders often. :) And we've never texted. Anyone! Email only when miles apart!

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