MENTAL NOTE

"Though we cannot make our sun stand still, yet we will make him run."
Blue, resist the urge to use facebook. You can do it. Good luck.
Cats and dogs can be friends. So can cowboys and indians. So can we.
Why try to be the best when there's no hierarchy in heaven?

Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Blinders

You know what makes me sick? People who keep telling me what clothes to wear, what shoes to buy, and ─ get this ─ what apps are, I quote, “important”, like life is all about gadgets and fashion. I thought I was short-sighted. 

Remember that moment in Speed when Dennis Hopper says, “You got blinders on to the world”? Well, every time someone points out, in their infinite wisdom, that I need to look fashionable… and every time someone tells me I need to lose brand X because brand Y is all the rage these days… and every time people feel their preferences should be my standard, too, I’m reminded of that particular scene and I get sick to my stomach.

And you know what, the most disappointing thing of all is that it’s usually friends who seem to know what is best for me… gadget-wise and fashion-wise.

'Blue, Windows 10 is really important.'
'Blue, lose the bootcuts.'
'Blue, get yourself some decent 2016 sneakers.'
'Blue, ditch the tie.'
'Blue, you're old school.'

What they don’t seem to want to understand is that fashion and the latest must-have gadgets are not vital to my existence. They do not play a central role in how I choose to spend my short life on Earth. They really do not. In my book, those things are, more often than not, distractions.

So now I’m thinking: Who is blind in this I-know-what-is-best scenario? Will I love my life more if I spend my days staring at the screen of my smart phone? Should I care if Trump secretly wants to hump Clinton because that’s what it says on Facebook? Will I be a better person if I follow the herd and wear skinny jeans with holes the size of Michael Jordan’s nuts? Will you like me more if I bleat your way? Does God wear skinny jeans?

Sometimes I look at people and I wonder if we were really made in God’s image. It seems like a heck of a stretch when you come to think of it.

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93 comments:

  1. Don't get the skinny jeans. Cut off your circulation.
    While I do think everyone needs an iPad, I'm not about keeping up with the Jones. (Who were real people from North Carolina!)
    And fashion. T-shirts and jeans are still hip, right?

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    1. To each his own, Alex. Even if the whole world thinks you're wrong. I bet those jeans look good on you.

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    2. The wife thinks so. Although around the house, semi-commando is better.

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    3. And we all know semi-commando is not skinny. Imagine THIS GUY wearing skinny jeans. It just wouldn't have been right...

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  2. Ok now I'm interested in knowing the actual size of the those holes in skinny jeans!

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  3. Please, PLEASE never wear skinny jeans. *shudders* I don't think there has been a worse invention in the world of fashion (for men). I'm with you. It's not fashionable to have a whole herd of kids too, but dang, they make me happy. (And frustrated, and stressed, but mostly happy and fulfilled.)

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    1. Happiness and fulfilment... Now you're talking :)

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    2. Totally. We can be happy and strange at the same time. Actually, I think being strange lends to being happy, because you don't care what other people are thinking. Maybe not per say what they're thinking, but how they're judging.

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  4. What I want to know, is how you know what Jordan has down below? Were you there peeking? Hmm maybe an app for help with that you should be seeking lol such people who think they know what is best for you can take their advice and shove it up their gazoo. Actually if they don't shut up at my sea, two things they get from me. I either tell them to go piss up a rope, that usually stops the dope. Or I tell them to go pound sand up their ass. That one either shuts them up or they give some sass. But then I just ignore. Damn all those "only want to help" idiots at my shore.

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    1. Well, at least such an app would be useful. But tell me, Cat, how exactly does one piss up a rope? Haha!

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    2. haha that is the key
      Can't let that fly free
      And if they were to try
      May get themselves in the eye

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    3. A secret it'll stay
      At the kitty cat bay

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  5. Wear what is comfortable for you and buy only stuff that you really need. Have a good week Blue !!

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  6. Those people are terrible and you shouldn't listen to them. because clearly they're wrong.

    I'm the one you should be listening to.

    I'll send you a list of what tech gadgets and clothes you need later in the week.

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    1. I can't wait. Meanwhile I'll go get a drink because the suspense is killing me.

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  7. God looks at the heart so he could care less about skinny jeans :)

    Me too about skinny jeans or the jeans with tons of holes in them and they charge an arm and a leg for them.

    My days of trying or wanting to keep up with trends is over. I just like to be me these days, like you just want to be you.

    betty

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    1. I've never felt the urge to fit in, betty. Trends come and go - only to return.

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  8. I have a friend like this. She tells everyone what to do. Recently she spoke to me like I was a child in need of reprimanding over something similar. I blew up. I'm full of regret. She's wounded. I've grouched about it now today twice, here and on another blog. Sometimes it's best to stay quiet and let people tell you what to do. Especially if it's small scale in relation to the bigger picture. ;) We'll be okay, but it's going to take awhile and I hate that... I KNEW not to say anything. Insert foot in mouth...yeah, that was me. I'm wordy on your blog posts lately, Blue. I'm not leaving money in the counseling jar this time though, we just got back from Orlando and I'm broke (everything costs money up there, dangit! lol). :) To MOST people who tell you what you should or should not do/like/be, I say phft and phooey!

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    1. I love your being wordy, Rosey. Thanks for taking the time to share your thoughts with me. Phft and phooey.... I couldn't agree more. I don't mind a bit of unsolicited advice, but some people really think they know best all the time. It's suffocating and rude.

      I'm not sure if you should be full of regret, though. It's not like you blow up every day. There had to have been a reason, and there was.

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  9. I generally do the opposite of what people tell me to do. Or at least that's what my parents always claimed.

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  10. Hi Blue,

    I think you just need to wear what works for you! If you like boot cut go for it. It's about feeling comfortable in your own skin, and not so much about the clothes that cover that skin. Does that make sense? I was never one to keep up with the Jones (who Alex says are from NC) I don't even know who the Jones are? lol..I just do what feels right for me. I don't have a bunch of apps, heck I don't even have facebook. I am just not into all of that. I have always walked to a different drum, and that is ok with me. Look God, it's me Truedessa, I have a question? Is it better to be happy in your own skin or does it matter what clothes we put over that skin. Should it be designer and if so, what label do you recommend? Inquiring minds want to know..We just need to like who we are when we look in the mirror of reflection.

    Oh, and I always like the Blue Tin Man, you don't need to search for a heart it is growing right now as we speak. We're off to see the wizard ...

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WhGooHS5z_Y

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    1. The tin man gets a heart, or so he thinks... What amuses me - and at the same time annoys me more than it should - is that a friend of mine wants me to believe it's important to go with the flow and follow the herd; that wearing certain sneakers is bound to keep me young, as if that is key in the greater scheme of, well, things; that not staying behind in terms of technological advances is somehow as relevant as the need to make a living and the need to be loved; that staying young is necessary and even doable, which is something I'm sure many Romans and cavemen deluded themselves into believing, too. I don't want to live that way, True. Not only is it shallow, it is an illusion. None of that matters to me and it never will.

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  11. The tin man already had a heart, he just didn't realize it. The thing that touches me in the clip is when the wizard in his wisdom speaks of a broken heart. The ache of a broken heart is very real and one that makes our heart pause. I am glad you don't follow the herd. It is better to make your own path and leave your blue imprints in the world. Hey, I sort of like my own drumbeat. Being unique is like having the X factor.

    I once bought a friend a gift which I picked with care and then she wrote me a note and said she didn't wear what the sweater was made of, it's funny that your post made me think of that. I guess it wasn't the right quality. The lesson here is you cannot please everyone. Do the clothes make the man or does the man make the clothes? Wear the shoes that are right for you in the journey.

    When it comes to advice we are free to take what we like and ditch that which doesn't speak to us. Be you Blue and remain true to yourself.

    It seems I have a lot to say. What else is new? Haha



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    1. Like lots of us don't realize lots of things. Better make that all of us, the tin guy included :)) I have never ever followed the herd, True. It has to be a character flaw.

      It wasn't the right quality. I see. Nope, you'd have to be a miracle worker to please everyone in town.

      I'll be Blue till the end of time, True.

      Say a lot. I love it.

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  12. Usually, people don't tell me what to do. I am old and crabby and I scare people which is okay with me. One of my 4 sisters is pretty bossy but she lives 500 miles away so no problem.

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    1. I scare people too (no joke) even when I don't want to. I guess I can relate, Kathleen.

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  13. You is still using Windows 7 like certain someone here present who may or may not be me? :)
    Had a friend come over to do something on my PC and he was like, Geez Louise, I thought this Windows of yours was used only in prehistoric times.... and then when he updated it with years amounts of updates it all went downhill.....
    Did I tell you me was left without the net for two days this week? My provider closed the business without announcing it to me... no more free net for this little spy, now I have to pay for it....

    Did you know I don't even own a smart phone....

    In other news, you really do need modern new sneakers, no matter how blue you are...

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    1. I didn't know your nickname was Louise :p Mandy & Louise... Just don't tell anybody or I'll send you some white tea. No more free internet... The story of my life.

      Nope, that I didn't know, Dezz.

      Sneakers make me look like an idiot. Is that what you want? (Say NO)

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    2. well, there are always the fancy schmancy sneakers from Paciotti, Tacinni, Versache etc... I know you lurv them luxurious...

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    3. Nope, not in this case, Dezzmeister. They make me look like a fool. Only a couple of hours ago, Angie boldly (not baldly) reminded me of this very fact.

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    4. you cannot look like a fool in classy fancy sneakers, missy! You can even wear them with a casual summer suit or light summer pants, shirt or polo T/shirt. Don't tell me she is not letting you wear flip flops either! I wear nothing but Rider flip flops all summer long in all possible combinations....

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    5. She is not letting me wear flip flops. They make me look like a big blue flop.

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    6. so you walk in socks and shoes even when it is 47*C? She is so cruel, that Angelina of yours! Cruel, I say, cruel! Never have I heard of such tyranny!

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    7. Which is why I keep singing, "Don't be cruel to a heart that's true." To no avail, obviously.

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    8. I like a man who can wear sneakers and a tie ;)

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    9. Well, that settles it. Dezz, Lynda tels me it's okay to wear sneakers and a tie.

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  14. Ewww, Windows 10. I had to actually install a program to block all reminders and updates concerning Windows 10 because they're dead set on upgrading me against my will. Sorry, not gonna happen.

    I aspire to be my dad. Not only has he completely disregarded the skinny jeans memo, but he wears those old school Jerry Seinfeld sneakers and still rocks the fanny pack without a single care in the world.

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    1. Against everybody's will. They are friggin' rapists!

      Sounds like you've got a great dad. Mine is dead and that's the only way I like it. So no skinny jeans for your dad... I like him already.

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  15. Blue, Blue, Blue ... if I were you, I'd stuff my ears with cotton-wool. Plus, if I were your fried (in the real world) I'd love you no matter what you wore :)

    And I shall leave you with this most excellent quote:
    “Clothes make the man. Naked people have little or no influence on society.”
    ― Mark Twain

    PS Tell them all to stuff off :))

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    1. What if I were to put on Dezzy's favorite outfit? Are you sure you don't want to reconsider the veracity of your statement? (No, I'm not a lawyer haha!) But seriously, I hear ya, Wendy. I will tell them all to stuff off. As a bonus, I will tell them to go stuff it.

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    2. Oh crap. I meant to 'edit' that quote and say that clothes 'DO NOT' make the man. God ... sorry, you must have been somewhat confused!

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    3. No need to call me God,Wendy, but I have to say I was a tad confused. I almost grabbed the nearest bottle. Luckily it contained water.

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  16. Speaking from personal experience I do love my smart phone!!

    I'd take old school as a serious compliment!!!

    We're off on (tropical) holidays shortly that involve a couple of birthday dinners with a dress code - no jeans, no sandals, no sneakers. Plumbing boy wants to wear shorts with his wedding shoes minus the shoe laces (black dress shoes - when he wears his suit pants you cant tell the shoelaces are missing). Oh so wrong. I guess I shouldn't be too concerned. He also refuses to wear Chino's. I think skinny leg holey jeans are the least of my worries at this point LOL!!!!!

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    1. Shorts with his wedding shoes minus the shoe laces... Well, I suppose it takes a real man to be able to pull that one off, AlleyCat ;) Chino's... I have them for breakfast. I hate them that much haha! (Sorry.)

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    2. LOL you should see the cowboy boots he bought on the weekend to wear with his shorts...........

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    3. I would love to see that very much :) It takes a real man to get away with it.

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  17. What happened to the concept of being "uniquely you"? I respect people that don't follow the herd.

    As for skinny jeans...maybe God doesn't wear them but I am pretty sure Satan does. They are evil!!!

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    1. The concept refuses to be rebooted. Ha! Like we care, right?

      Satan does... That explains the holes... Cheryl, I nearly fell off my chair.

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  18. I wear whatever the hell I want, when I want and don't care what anyone thinks. Someone asked me if I was too old to be shopping in the juniors section once. F*@# you, no I'm not. I'll buy that Aladdin shirt and look good doing so, even if someone thinks I'm too old to be wearing it.

    I don't understand the "look at me and what I just bought" mentality. People always posting their newest purchases on Facebook. Look at my new grill! Look at my new phone! Really, nobody cares, but they'll hit the "like" button just so you can feel better about yourself. It's ridiculous!

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    1. Did you say, "Fuck you"? Yes, you did, and I like it too. How dare they tell you you are too old!

      People post everything on Facebook. I guess there are a lot of people with tiny ducks, right? Yes, tiny um ducks.

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    2. She DID say the F word... even if it was slightly disguised. She's a fiery one, Blue.

      Bet she does rock the Aladdin too! :)

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    3. lol wow, look at her go
      With the fluck show
      Facebook is all about look at me
      Toss them all in the see with their small pp

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    4. Her fluck show
      Sure beat my duck show.
      That much I know.
      Toss them in there
      I bet there's no hair

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    5. Sometimes you just gotta drop that F bomb, especially when someone has a negative opinion on something you are doing that doesn't have any affect on their life whatsoever.

      On a side note, I hate Windows 10. As soon as I do get used to it, they'll force me to upgrade to another Windows version that I'll hate even more than the last.

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    6. Sometime you gotta drop it twice because no one was paying attention the first time. Let's reboot that F bomb and make it bigger and better.

      Windows 10 is a dictator, is what that is.

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  19. I decided months ago not to download windows 10 and wouldn't you know my hubby had it automatically downloaded when windows did an update. Sneaky bastards. He likes it fine but he doesn't do much but play games. lol People should really stop telling others what to do, what to wear and what to buy.

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  20. Though many women can get away with slithering into skinny jeans by wearing oversized tops, many men cannot so I'm with you. Stay true Blue!

    Julie

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  21. Blue - get yourself a margarita! That's all that matters. And I agree with the above comment that women look better in skinny jeans than men. Men look like Max Wall in them.

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    1. I'm so sick of unsolicited advice, Jules. Do you know what I mean? "Blue, I'm taking superficiality to a whole new level, baby, and it's key that you see the importance of it all lest you shall be lost."

      Do you know what I mean?

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    2. I prefer to be lost, myself. People always seem to want to give me advice, Blue and I respond with, "See that person over there? The one who looks like he's enjoying himself? Well, why don't you go and convince him that he isn't..." And then I walk away in my cowboy hat, my short,lacey, bohemian, old western dress and crazy boots (which clearly isn't this years fashion) with my real paper book in my hand and not a kindle, and...... smile.

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    3. You look like a billion bucks.

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  22. I am with you 100% here. I detest many of the current fashions and fads, and I have no use for them. I am definitely old-school :)

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    1. You know, Keith, if fashion makes people happy, I'm all for it even if we're talking skinny jeans with holes the size of my hands. What I have a problem with is people telling me I NEED TO be like them. That makes me sick. Other than that, I'm all good.

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  23. Interesting post :)
    http://shilpachandrasekheran.blogspot.in/2016/07/food.html?m=1

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  24. I'm going to break with Rooth tradition and quote South Park - I do what I want!

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    1. As you should. Hi Rooth. How's Dallas these days?

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  25. Keep what you have. It will come back around. I cannot tell you how many times I curse myself for not keep my clothes from the 80's. Their back in style now! Dang!

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    1. Sound advice. I sure will keep what I have, Elsie. Hopefully that includes my weight if you know what I mean ;)
      I remember the eighties. I miss those days.

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  26. I have a theory about skinny jeans. People want other people to wear them so they can point and laugh.
    I'm never gonna lose my boot-cuts! And if they want to point and laugh at me, it's ok because I know they are crying on the inside coz their skinny jeans are just too skinny.

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    1. I love your theory, Lynda. I bet those boot-cuts look good on you.

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    2. I won't mention I'm short and boot-cuts aren't meant to suit short people ;)

      BUT I DON'T CARE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)

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    3. That's the spirit!

      If I were to put holes in my suits, would that be a revolutionary move or just plain stupid?

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  27. Hi Blue...
    You do whatever you want to do...
    There...that is settled...case closed...NEXT?
    Hope you are enjoying a vacay by now...
    Cheers!
    Linda :o)

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    1. There...that is settled...case closed...NEXT?
      You're my kind a woman, Linda! Too bad I'm not enjoying a vacay. I'm teaching summer classes so what am I gonna do, right? But the weather is fine, I'm feeling almost okay and my blue Ferrari is still going strong. Wait, that Ferrari was just a figment of my imagination, but would you believe me if I told you one of my students is actually called Ferrari?

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    2. Have you ever lied to me before, Blue?

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    3. Just exactly who ARE these people telling you these things?

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    4. Don't believe a word he tells you Linda!!
      I keep telling you that you are much better off with me . . . lol

      I would never resort to telling you I drive a blue Lamborghini or Porche.... lol

      Hi . . Blue!! . . . haha

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    5. Hahaha! That's the Eddie we know.

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  28. Life is better without the blinders on. So many sheeple walk this life oblivious to how they're being manipulated and controlled in some fashion or another. It's madness!

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    1. Total madness. Which is what some people need, apparently.

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  29. Funny how holes in jeans are considered fashionable yet holes in pyjamas are considered as time to buy a new pair of 'pyjams' and don't bother trying to repair them!"

    I have often wondered if God does wear jeans and perhaps blue jeans at that . . lol. I doubt if his perfection would allow any holes in them and I am not sure whether he would need a fly and zip either. lol

    I share your thoughts about fashion and the fashion industry . . in my mind just another way to get our hard earned money . . :)

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    1. You see, Eddie, I'm not really talking about fashion but about people insistence on it's importance, which in my book is just plain ridiculous.

      Maybe those holes are a metaphor...

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